Sex Talk Alert: How to go down on a woman

Every man needs to have this skill if they are interested in bringing their lady to a higher level on the satisfaction scale.

Although, I found that this writer uses unnecessary slang vocabulary (some may consider it, somewhat, vulgar) and can easily offend if you linger too long on the words, if you can look past that, the points are descriptive and excellent. For those men that have never been quite sure what to do down there, this will help tremendously and for those women that are still trying to figure out what they like and how they like it, this will help you in directing your man to try some things. Most guys actually like being directed because it turns them on when they know they have turned you on. How simple it is to please….



Sunscreen Protection Demistified


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I have a teen that has skin as white as snow. Her goal for several summers is to get a ‘good tan’…. but knowing what I know, I can’t agree that there is such a thing. I have ran behind her, her whole life with creams and sprays trying to keep her from getting burned. But it seems every summer she gets one anyway. This year, in the spring, I told her that she would not be playing beach volleyball if she got any kind of burn….. so, she hid it from me. Turns out she couldn’t play anyway for other reasons so it sort of worked out.

She is spending time in Greece this summer…. without me. I’m not there to run after her and spray. It’s a big trip and I’m nervous about it. But I sent her off with lotions and sprays ranging from 30 to 60 SPF. I hope they are all empty by the time she gets back but somehow I bet that she will come back darker.

I had always been a little confused about sun screen (‘sun tan lotion’ in the ‘olden days’) and decided to visit a dermatologist to clear some things up and check on some moles. With sunscreen ranging from 15 to 110 SPF, how much protection are they really offering with those numbers? According to The New York Times, SPF 100 blocks out 99% of UVB rays, only 1% more than SPF 50. (SPF 30 is 96.7% effective) By the way, ‘SPF’ only indicates the protection against UVB rays, not UVA rays. So, read the label to look for ‘broad spectrum’ protection or ingredients like avobenzone or Mexoryl SX. They block out UVA rays.

Another thing to consider is the UV index from your weather channel. A UV Index of 5 and up requires your attention. Protection is necessary. Whether its the shade of a tree, an umbrella, a hat and clothes or sunscreen. There are 3 types of UV rays. A, B, and C. UVC is filtered by the ozone layer and does not reach the earth (for now). So, we’re good, considering its the most harmful. But UVB and UVA are nasty in their own right. Both contribute to skin damage, premature aging and skin cancer. UVB rays penetrate the outer layers of the skin and are the primary cause of sunburn. UVA rays penetrate more deeply into the skin, accelerate premature aging and wrinkles the most. They are prevalent in tanning salons where the devices can expose you to 5 times more UVA rays than natural sunlight. Depending on your surroundings, the UV rays can be increased by reflecting off of water, sand, snow and grass. The worst being fresh snow with almost 3 times the reflection ability of water for UVB rays.

One thing that surprised me was the frequency of reapplication necessary. Every 2-3 hours or more frequently if swimming. An adult will need about 2 tablespoons for proper coverage, applied 20 minutes before exposure. Using the proper amount is actually more important than choosing the SPF. If you use half of what you are supposed to, you will get the square root of the advertised SPF. So a 70 SPF will only give you 8.4 times protection. If you are in the sun for most of the day and using the right amount, you should finish an 88mL tube without a problem per adult. That’s going to cost more than parking…..!

Here is a rather shocking but fun video by Thomas Leveritt that shows sun damage to skin that you can’t see otherwise.

Have women grown up damaged by our society

Well, if the answer is yes, it’s never too late to fix the warped perception society has helped mold. It’s time to break free from that mold and know how truly wonderful you are.

Here are a couple of videos that brought home the impact society in general has on women’s self-esteem. Let’s take the time to change it in our own piece of the world and be as awesome as we were meant to be.


4 Great breakfast ideas with power-house ingredients

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I’ve rarely been one to eat breakfast on a normal day, in my adult life. I have a coffee and it curbs my appetite until I crave an early lunch. Here and there or on weekends I will have something that might  include an egg, time permitting. Oatmeal with melting peanut butter is on my radar in the winter the odd time when I wake up hungry. If I really make the effort I may have a smoothy. But in the last few years, I’ve heard about some unusual ingredients and I get curious about how to use them.

For instance, I have use kale sauteed in with pasta and I thought it was very yummy, but I hadn’t considered it as a breakfast food. Then goji berries…. I had bought some from the bulk food store to try. They were certainly tasty but wondered how they would bake into things but again never as part of a breakfast. Chia seeds have become more main stream since their sprouting introduction as Chia Pet® in 1977. Note: the Chia Pet® sprouts should not be considered edible because of the possible lead in the clay mold, but are fun none-the-less.

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Some of the benefits of these power-house ingredients for a great breakfast

Goji Berries: high in vitamin C and beta-carotene

Kale: high in fiber, vitamin K, Iron and anti-oxidants

Figs: high in calcium, iron, foliate, magnesium and potassium

Chia Seeds: high in Omega-3, soluble fiber, phosphorus and manganese

Hemp Seeds: high in essential fatty acids, Omega-6, contains the 9 essential amino acids that the body can not produce and is a complete protein

Flax: high in fiber, B vitamins, magnesium, manganese and Omega-3

Here you will find four recipes that include berry flax oatmeal, chia pudding, a kale and avocado smoothie and fig, persimmon yogurt parfait! We’re off to a good start!

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A Simple, Intense Tomato Soup with Maftoul

What a wonderful meal! I’m sure it will freeze well too. Cooking for one or two people can be challenging. Soups are perfect for that. Also, Autumn will be here eventually and soup is a great comfort food!

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intense roast tomato soupI often get funny looks when I suggest this at my weight management groups and my cancer nutrition classes. No one quite rolls their eyes, but I do feel a collective will not to laugh; a suppression of an exasperated “you’ve got to be kidding me.”

I eat tomatoes like candy. At least at this time of year when tomatoes are at their delectable and nutritious peak. And I suggest that others give it a go, too.

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Interview: Mindset of the ‘other woman’

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There are many reasons why someone would sleep with someone’s spouse or partner. In reality, the onus falls on the person that has made a commitment to another. If someone stripped down naked and said ‘do me’, you always have the choice to say ‘thanks, but no thanks.’

Patricia is single, 40-something, divorced. She has slept with married men and has no problem with that. She is an average women.

She doesn’t want to steal your husband. She doesn’t want a relationship. But she does want sex. She feels an attraction to him and lets him know by flirting and throwing out suggestive comments in casual conversation. If he looks interested, she will escalate the sexual conversation. At any point he can shut her down and that’s fine. She says ‘Why would you want to sleep with someone that isn’t interested in the same thing? The sex, at best, will be barely mediocre.’

MTM- How do you pick the guys that you will pursue or select the one’s that pursue you?

Patricia- Most often I will meet them online. If I’m initially attracted to their profile and picture, I will contact them. Then meet them briefly to see if there is mutual attraction in person. That feeling of getting butterflies in your stomach, the excitement is wonderful. Typically I’m attracted to younger men. Many like older women because they know what they like, they are confident and there is so much less drama. Men want you to tell them how they can please you. They love knowing that they were responsible for your explosive orgasm.

MTM- What is the youngest that has been interested in having sex with you?

Patricia- I think early 20’s. But I was not interested in being a ‘teacher’. I want to be with someone that knows his way around a woman so it didn’t go anywhere. I got many requests from guys 15 -20 years younger. I think it’s a ‘thing’ with them. I find it a waste of time and effort to go that young. Plus, if there is any conversation, it would be more annoying than anything.

MTM- What is the conversation like when you first meet? How long is the meeting?

Patricia- The initial meeting is likely less than it takes to have a cup of coffee. We might talk about general interests, how we are feeling around each other, what we are thinking that we might want to do to each other in that moment. We have probably covered most of what we would like to try in texts or emails. So, we might talk about schedules or locations if the attraction is there. We will kiss. That is very important because if their kissing doesn’t do anything for you, there is no point in taking it further.

MTM- Does it bother you at all if they are already in a relationship or marriage?

Patricia- I prefer men in relationships because that reduces the possibility of me getting in a relationship. I don’t want to be tied down right now. Their life outside of ‘us’ has nothing to do with me so I don’t ask for any details. Even their name is irrelevant. I’m just looking for someone to have great sex with once or twice per week. I don’t care about his other relationships, if he has kids or what he does for a living as long as he is willing to pay for a hotel room occasionally. But a car or secluded place is fine too. I won’t bring them to my place for privacy reasons.

MTM- Are you concerned about STD’s or pregnancy?

Patricia- Condoms are a must. I’m not on the pill anymore so I do worry about the condom breaking. It’s happened and it did cause some stress for a time until I found that everything was fine. I will have checks for STD’s several times a year just in case something slips through or sooner if I think something is ‘off’ with my body. It’s important to know yourself and what is normal for you.

MTM- Aren’t you worried that you might fall in love with someone that you can’t have?

Patricia- I’m realistic about that. It’s possible I guess, but I curb the feelings and thoughts that may bring me to that place. I’m not interested in being in a relationship. In the future, when I’m ready again, my dating choices will be different. Also, I’m not naive enough to even consider that a married man will leave his wife for someone he met to have sex with. The criteria for each can be so different.

The impression I got through our discussion was that she is in it for herself. She is selfish. She feels that your relationship isn’t her problem and you have to agree. It’s your problem. She is confident and knows what she wants out of meeting your husband. The initial emails and texts discuss the hope of physical attraction, what they are interested in doing, butterflies, and where to meet. She is exploring her sexuality and that’s her only goal. She doesn’t care how many kids he has or his miserable relationship with this wife. She doesn’t care what he does or even what his name is, to be blunt. If she meets him for coffee she will know within minutes if they will have sex, if there is mutual attraction. It really doesn’t matter where, a car, a beach, a motel… You can use your imagination, which is good, because you can be that woman (or man) to your partner. Arrange a meeting with your partner and discuss mainly sex topics. “Have you tried this?” “Would you like to try that?” “Are you open to this?” Trust and a non-judgmental environment is critical. Alcohol does not need to be involved, but one drink might help relax you. More can diminish your experience.

The interview with Patricia is based on a conversation I had with a woman I met a few years ago and was shocked by it at the time. The shock has now subsided. She is now in a monogamous relationship with a single man. Life continues to evolve.
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GMO’s, Round-up and Labeling


There is a lot of information on the web about GMO’s, Round-up Ready crops and the fact that Unilever and Monsanto (among others) spend a whole lot of money to prevent you from knowing what food contains them.

If we are informed and have money to spend on food, UNITED, we have a lot of power as consumers. Personally, I want to know what is in my food and I expect that if a crop has been doused in a chemical, I want to know about it. I don’t care how much money these companies might loose. I don’t care how many people working there may loose their jobs. They have a responsibility to us. To life itself.


It used to be that we trusted companies that created food products. Why would anyone put anything in a food product that would not be good for our bodies? Now we realize that we were naive. It’s about making money, of course, not keeping the population healthy. The people working for these companies have a responsibility, to all people. They need to take the blinders off. Our government officials need to put their population first and stop the love-fest with these companies because of their financial contributions including ‘creating jobs’.

Some companies are starting to (quietly) remove GMO’s from their food products before they are required to add it to the label. Do they see the writing on the wall? Yes, I think they know what is coming and that is a backlash of informed consumers reminding them that we are not like the cattle in their factory farms.

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