Sex Talk Alert: How to go down on a woman

Every man needs to have this skill if they are interested in bringing their lady to a higher level on the satisfaction scale.

Although, I found that this writer uses unnecessary slang vocabulary (some may consider it, somewhat, vulgar) and can easily offend if you linger too long on the words, if you can look past that, the points are descriptive and excellent. For those men that have never been quite sure what to do down there, this will help tremendously and for those women that are still trying to figure out what they like and how they like it, this will help you in directing your man to try some things. Most guys actually like being directed because it turns them on when they know they have turned you on. How simple it is to please….



Interview: Mindset of the ‘other woman’

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There are many reasons why someone would sleep with someone’s spouse or partner. In reality, the onus falls on the person that has made a commitment to another. If someone stripped down naked and said ‘do me’, you always have the choice to say ‘thanks, but no thanks.’

Patricia is single, 40-something, divorced. She has slept with married men and has no problem with that. She is an average women.

She doesn’t want to steal your husband. She doesn’t want a relationship. But she does want sex. She feels an attraction to him and lets him know by flirting and throwing out suggestive comments in casual conversation. If he looks interested, she will escalate the sexual conversation. At any point he can shut her down and that’s fine. She says ‘Why would you want to sleep with someone that isn’t interested in the same thing? The sex, at best, will be barely mediocre.’

MTM- How do you pick the guys that you will pursue or select the one’s that pursue you?

Patricia- Most often I will meet them online. If I’m initially attracted to their profile and picture, I will contact them. Then meet them briefly to see if there is mutual attraction in person. That feeling of getting butterflies in your stomach, the excitement is wonderful. Typically I’m attracted to younger men. Many like older women because they know what they like, they are confident and there is so much less drama. Men want you to tell them how they can please you. They love knowing that they were responsible for your explosive orgasm.

MTM- What is the youngest that has been interested in having sex with you?

Patricia- I think early 20’s. But I was not interested in being a ‘teacher’. I want to be with someone that knows his way around a woman so it didn’t go anywhere. I got many requests from guys 15 -20 years younger. I think it’s a ‘thing’ with them. I find it a waste of time and effort to go that young. Plus, if there is any conversation, it would be more annoying than anything.

MTM- What is the conversation like when you first meet? How long is the meeting?

Patricia- The initial meeting is likely less than it takes to have a cup of coffee. We might talk about general interests, how we are feeling around each other, what we are thinking that we might want to do to each other in that moment. We have probably covered most of what we would like to try in texts or emails. So, we might talk about schedules or locations if the attraction is there. We will kiss. That is very important because if their kissing doesn’t do anything for you, there is no point in taking it further.

MTM- Does it bother you at all if they are already in a relationship or marriage?

Patricia- I prefer men in relationships because that reduces the possibility of me getting in a relationship. I don’t want to be tied down right now. Their life outside of ‘us’ has nothing to do with me so I don’t ask for any details. Even their name is irrelevant. I’m just looking for someone to have great sex with once or twice per week. I don’t care about his other relationships, if he has kids or what he does for a living as long as he is willing to pay for a hotel room occasionally. But a car or secluded place is fine too. I won’t bring them to my place for privacy reasons.

MTM- Are you concerned about STD’s or pregnancy?

Patricia- Condoms are a must. I’m not on the pill anymore so I do worry about the condom breaking. It’s happened and it did cause some stress for a time until I found that everything was fine. I will have checks for STD’s several times a year just in case something slips through or sooner if I think something is ‘off’ with my body. It’s important to know yourself and what is normal for you.

MTM- Aren’t you worried that you might fall in love with someone that you can’t have?

Patricia- I’m realistic about that. It’s possible I guess, but I curb the feelings and thoughts that may bring me to that place. I’m not interested in being in a relationship. In the future, when I’m ready again, my dating choices will be different. Also, I’m not naive enough to even consider that a married man will leave his wife for someone he met to have sex with. The criteria for each can be so different.

The impression I got through our discussion was that she is in it for herself. She is selfish. She feels that your relationship isn’t her problem and you have to agree. It’s your problem. She is confident and knows what she wants out of meeting your husband. The initial emails and texts discuss the hope of physical attraction, what they are interested in doing, butterflies, and where to meet. She is exploring her sexuality and that’s her only goal. She doesn’t care how many kids he has or his miserable relationship with this wife. She doesn’t care what he does or even what his name is, to be blunt. If she meets him for coffee she will know within minutes if they will have sex, if there is mutual attraction. It really doesn’t matter where, a car, a beach, a motel… You can use your imagination, which is good, because you can be that woman (or man) to your partner. Arrange a meeting with your partner and discuss mainly sex topics. “Have you tried this?” “Would you like to try that?” “Are you open to this?” Trust and a non-judgmental environment is critical. Alcohol does not need to be involved, but one drink might help relax you. More can diminish your experience.

The interview with Patricia is based on a conversation I had with a woman I met a few years ago and was shocked by it at the time. The shock has now subsided. She is now in a monogamous relationship with a single man. Life continues to evolve.
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Male Birth Control Available Today?


Most women and probably some men have wondered when we would see a supplement that could stop the production of sperm with no side effects. Even better if it was easily reversible. Well, mother nature has come through! Ages ago. In India and South East Asia, people have used the papaya and its seeds as a form of birth control. Studies have been done and positive results have been noted on mice and monkeys. Here is the article that I found when I searched on ‘fresh ground papaya seeds burn face’.

Yes, my search was a result of having a papaya at home that was ripe and deciding that I wanted to make a face-mask out of the seeds after cutting it up to freeze for smoothies… because I was sure there was good stuff in them. So I put them in a blender, added a little water and ground them up. Then I smeared the paste on my face, feeling the little bits of seed, I thought ‘Oh this will be good to exfoliate with!’

Then the burning started…. holy crap…. within half a minute. We are talking BURNING my face off here! I’m thinking ‘gotta get this rinsed off right now before it leaves a mark!’, ‘will it leave my face looking like I got a sunburn?’ I’m splashing water like crazy… ‘Will I have a blotchy face for work tomorrow?’ (Yeah, I have to work on Saturday..) ‘Do I need to go to a clinic tonight??’  I got on the computer and searched for any warnings for ‘papaya gone wrong’ instances. All I found was a lot of good stuff. After rinsing it was still burning a little, but it was bearable. Then, it subsided completely after 30 minutes. Well, that was an experience! (Reminds me of the time I took 500mg of Niacin instead of 50mg except my whole body was on fire… note to self: Follow what your doctor prescribes.)

Yes, the seeds have good stuff in them. If you eat them they taste like wasabi or pepper and it feels like it too, if you smear it on your face. I might just stick to putting a teaspoon in my smoothie instead of on my face.