Being A Girl: A Brief Personal History of Violence

Even women sometimes do not see the hurtful subtleties through-out their lives and how it will condition them. Good, kind and strong men can intervene at any time to change this.In fact, I think it is the only way that this behaviour will change. We need moms of little boys and the good-guys who are adults to teach the rest of their gender respectful conduct.

The Belle Jar


I am six. My babysitter’s son, who is five but a whole head taller than me, likes to show me his penis. He does it when his mother isn’t looking. One time when I tell him not to, he holds me down and puts penis on my arm. I bite his shoulder, hard. He starts crying, pulls up his pants and runs upstairs to tell his mother that I bit him. I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone about the penis part, so they all just think I bit him for no reason.

I get in trouble first at the babysitter’s house, then later at home.

The next time the babysitter’s son tries to show me his penis, I don’t fight back because I don’t want to get in trouble.

One day I tell the babysitter what her son does, she tells me that he’s just a little boy, he doesn’t know…

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