Breaking up is hard whether you did the breaking up or not. Here are some tips to help you get through it.
Create a new play list.
Music is so important at times like this. Choose positive, empowering, happy songs and listen often.
Change your ring tone and either change or turn off notifications.
We become like Pavlov’s dogs. After hearing the sound of a bell just before being fed, for a time, the sound of the bell made them salivate even if no food was given to them. It’s the same with us. We hear our phone ring and we anticipate that it’s our partner. Switch it up.
Avoid excessive alcohol
You are already in a delicate state and it’s easier to make bad decisions when drunk. Plus, alcohol is a depressant.
Keep sweets and junk away
Don’t drown your sorrows in a tub of ice cream or a party size bag of chips. A little, good quality chocolate is fine.
Let your friends know you need them
Let your friends know when you need to vent or if you need a hug or a shoulder to cry on. Friends are there for the good times and the bad. Ask them to contact you more often for the next while. Go out together and get out of the house. Also, a parent can be there to listen and give you a hug no matter what your age.
Start ‘morning pages’ or a journal
When you wake up give yourself some time to write down your feelings, your thoughts. Don’t filter it. If you want to swear, go ahead. Getting it out before your start your day clears your head and you will be able to concentrate more on the things that are relevant to your day. Kids, work, etc. After all this heartache has passed, burn it and let it go.
Clean out a closet, your spices, sort through clothes to donate, wash your windows, do yard work, paint a room. You will feel a sense of accomplishment and something will get done while having focused on something else.
Get into the sun and feel it’s warmth. Listen to the birds, look at the green of the trees, listen to the waves, breathe deeply and pet someone’s dog. If its winter go for a brisk walk in the cold air, breathe it in, feel it on your skin. Snowshoeing, skiing, snowboarding, hiking and even tobogganing are fun winter activities that will get you focusing on something else.
Go for a run, a bike ride, a long walk, try yoga, just pick something and get the energy moving again. If you feel a wave of sadness coming do jumping jacks, run on the spot or get the skipping rope out until it subsides.
Make appointments for yourself
Go the hair salon, the nail salon, get a massage, go to the dentist. These are things that take care of you and make you feel better.
Give yourself a few weeks to be you again. This is a process and will take some time. It’s different for everyone. Just remember that you are the most important person in your life and allow yourself the time you need to heal. I promise it will get better each day.
Do you have any tips to add?
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